being true to yourself

Sometimes there is a moment in life, when you struggle with yourself.
When you think you have to act in contradiction with your true feelings.
While writing I see an important clue... I said "when you think".
At the moment Thinking is involved, Feeling comes way behind... in case it isn't completely gone yet.
In the most beautiful condition, Thinking en Feeling are equal. And now you add Acting.
There you are: back to Trinity.The basic of health.
(Acting - Thinking - Feeling....Body - Mind - Emotions)
You realize what is happening when just using your Thinking as a guidance?
Your ego gets involved. Your Big Toe, where people - including yourself - easily could step on.

And if you right now feel irritated, and feel your hair tinkle on your head, handpalms sweat...want to stop reading, you maybe take a look - just for fun - at your own two Big Toes.
Probably they are a bit big....and stabbing out.
So yeah... you can easily be stepped on one of them.
But I don't intend to tell about that this time.

This time I like to tell about Being True to Yourself.
And no. That is not an easy thing to do.
For it means: Not wearing a mask. Not hide yourself behind a massive wall.
To be true, has to do with being yourself.
Are you good enough? Or not?
And well...hiding yourself certainly gives you the feeling that you are safe.
But in my opinion that kind of safety is just fake. Nice to do so for a while, but in the end it will lead you to nowhere. It is a kind of fooling yourself.
Being yourself will at least save you the energy you are spending, trying to be the person people want you to be.

Dear You

Having feelings is not a shame. It's human.

Makes you the precious, beautiful person you are. Just perfect.

You know what is a shame?

That's when you feel like crying and you hold back your tears

just because you are afraid of what people are thinking.

You shouldn't ever let yourself down by denying your true feelings.

Because the sweetest thing you owe yourself, is your own friendship.

And being your own friend, means to listen to your feelings and to act like it.

And no, that has not always to be in public. You can listen afterwards.

Talk to someone, write it down....

Big Fat Mad Words on a piece of paper so you can Stamp Your Feet on it...

Draw, paint, scream, sing, pray, do whatever feels suitable for you.

And hey, when your painting is not a beauty... who cares.

It doesn't have to be perfect.

Just has to be an expression of you.

You know what,

When there is a time in life you feel lonely or real sad.

You always have your friend. Never too old for your teddybear.

He will always hug you. And listen to how you feel...not asking questions.

All people look like independant, tough persons.

But - you realize... - they are not.

They all have the same tiny weak soul.

All feel the same things, like being happy, being hurt, being sad.

They just don't show. Because...?

...Losing respect from other people, losing their image...?

...Afraid their ego get cracked? (Your Big Toe again...)

Not daring to take their masks off and come out from behind their safe barricades.

Just scared. Of people thinking they are a wimp or a loser.

So now...tell yourself...

Is it a shame to be You?

To be a hero, who is not letting himself down?

A real hero is someone who is strong enough to be weak.

To me that shows self-respect and self-confidence.

And - dear You - no matter what, it's always okay to be Human.
Because you are Beautiful